I have received a bunch of requests to list books that have been, and are important to me in developing my thinking.  Here I will organize that list, and link them to Amazon.com, so that you can get them.  I am just listing the ones that have been repeatably “hot” to me.

Basic Relationship Issues: The Imago

• Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples  by Harville Hendrix
• Keeping The Love You Find: A Guide for Singles by Harville Hendrix
• Creating Love by John Bradshaw
• Making Marriage Simple  by Harville Hendrix
• Turtle Logic and the University of Life by Kevin Scott Dodson (Scott can share it)

Diversity and General Semantics

• The Art of Awareness..a Textbook on General Semantics by J. Samuel Bois
• Language in Thought and Action: Fifth Edition by S.I. Hayakawa
• The World of Null-A by A.E. VanVogt
• The Players of Null-A by A.E. VanVogt
• The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future by Riane Eisler

Autonomy and Traps

• Family Secrets: The Path to Self-Acceptance and Reunion by John Bradshaw
• The Myth of Male Power by Warren Farrell
• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher
• I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terry Real
• Healing the Shame that Binds You: Recovery Classics Edition (Recovery Classics) by John Bradshaw
• The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life By Pat Love
• Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom by William Glasser
• Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
• Escape-Intimacy-Untangling-Addictions-Relationships by Anne Wilson Schaef

Emotions, Feelings, Body-Mind

• Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers, Third Edition by Robert M. Sapolsky
• The Function of the Orgasm: Discovery of the Orgone (Discovery of the Orgone, Vol 1) by Wm Reich
• Man in the Trap by Elsworth  F. Baker
• Hot Monogamy by Pat Love
• Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately by John Lee
• The Pleasure Prescription by Paul Pearsall
• The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being by Dan Siegel
• Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing by Tom Golden

The Long Range View

• Phenomenon of Man by Pierre Teilhard deChardin
• Of Water and the Spirit by Malidoma Some
• Healing Wisdom of Africa by Malidoma Some
• Guns, Germs, and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies by Jared Diamond
• The World’s Religions: Our Great Wisdom Traditions by Huston Smith
• The Water of Life: Initiation and the Tempering of the Soul by Michael Meade
• Iron John: A Book About Men by Robert Bly
• The Sibling Society by Robert Bly
• Beyond the Hero by Allan Chinnen

Parenting

• Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear by Pam Leo
• Love & Logic by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay
• Giving The Love That Heals By Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt

Deep Fun

• The Lord of the Rings (Any edition) by J.R.R. Tolkien
• The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart: Poems for Men Bly, Hillman, Meade
• Beat to Quarters (All the Series) by C.S.Forester
• The Complete Aubrey/Maturin Novels (All the Series) by Patrick O’Brian

Light Fun

• The Deed of Paksenarrion: A Novel (or any book) by Elizabeth Moon
• The Dragonriders of Pern (or any book) by Anne McCaffrey
• The Lensman (The Series) by E.E. “Doc” Smith
• Foundation Novels (or any book) by Isaac Asimov
• Superior Death (or any book) by Nevada Barr
• The Beekeeper’s Apprentice (or any book) by Laurie R. King
• Death of an Expert Witness (or any book) by P.D. James
• Under Fire (or any book) by W.E.B. Griffin