I got this question, recently. Apparently in my Map of Relationships I have not described it enough. I guess I just referred to it as a "place" that people, all people want to go to. Well, ok, I'll share some thoughts on it.
Continue reading →So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.
Continue reading →I believe that everyone needs a three-drawer tool box. Each drawer represents different tools or skills needed in life.
Continue reading →This is the story of a woman who believes her partner is leaving, and doesn't want him to. She kinda followed him across the country, but managed to keep learning the lesson, “Work on your self, visibly.” She's good, but learning is not easy! (Names have been changed)
Continue reading →This is a chart of my understandings of how intimate relationships work in printable B&W and Color versions. I hand this chart to anyone who is serious about getting in or out of good relationships. I use this chart on my whiteboard when I am teaching The Map of Relationships.
Continue reading →A recent letter sparked me to thinking about how I handle this tough situation. I have been using this all purpose skill for a dozen years, recommending it to my clients. Some use it. Some don’t. Sometimes it makes things “better.” Sometimes it seems to make things “worse.” Life is like that. Take a-look.
Continue reading →Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.
Continue reading →This question comes in often. “I am single and am looking for a partner. I know I have defects. How do I attract the right partner, one I can work with? How do I go about it?”
Continue reading →Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.
Continue reading →A wife asking for help at recovering trust for herself in her relationship after she and “he” have separated, come back together, and she no longer believes that he had been faithful during the separation time.
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