This is the lesson I teach every person I see. This is critical information for people who are puzzled, bothered, or upset when they find they disagree or that others disagree with them.
These concepts are vital to the practice of Dialogue and Communologue.
Continue reading →This discusses a great and eroding problem within a relationship: keeping silent, keeping secrets.
Continue reading →A listing of possible relationship problems – linked to solutions.
Continue reading →Here are some more thoughts about PreValidation and Validation.
Continue reading →This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.
To really grasp Diversity, I think people need to have an image, a model, that makes sense of Understanding and Validation. I have used this model for three years and it works. It defines “making sense”, “understanding”, “validation” and that most valuable of skills, “PreValidation”.
Continue reading →This is the training tool for communication. It's purpose is to train people in the 52 distinct skills necessary for making speakers feel heard and making listeners relaxed while listening to anything.
Continue reading →What is mirroring good for? Here's a list.
Continue reading →This is a true story I sometimes tell people who are first learning to use Mirroring and who are resisting practicing.
Continue reading →I use these three terms (Master, Slave, Friend) to refer to the three positions from which and to which communication can be addressed. These are similar to the positions in Transactional Analysis of Parent, Child, and Adult. No one is a Master. They just speak, and perhaps think, from the Master position. No one is a Slave. They just speak from the Slave position.
MasterTalk seems extremely easy to identify in conversation and writing.