These are the Graphics for my classes in Anacortes, WA. I don’t know if we will use them, but I think it’s nice to have them available to refer to.
- Map of Relationships
- Safety / Lizard
- Reliable Membership
- PreValidation, Validation – Icebergs
- Master Slave (simple); Master Slave (focused); Valley of the Masters
- Communication
- Boundaries for Individuals; Boundaries for Couples
- Frustration and Conflict
- Peace Building
- Survival: Notes for Clingers
- Full Relationship
Here are a few more that we may use:
Map of Relationships (B&W)
ValleyofMasters
DefendingDemocracy
Flow of Feelings
All People Make Sense
Idontknow
Idontknowhowtosayit
Blame or Self-Responsibility
How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.
Prompted by a friend on an online forum (MarriageAdvocates) I decided to share my view of Affairs. You might call this a Lizard view of Affairs. (This is not beginner material.)
I am beginning to use the word Triage to apply to the question, "How much should I get involved? How much energy is it wise to expend on this person? / this couple?"
People frequently come to me with this problem. Some years ago I came up with an answer and have not felt the need to change it. It works. Follow the four steps.
Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]