Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)
Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.
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Find Mr. Right or Ms. Right
This question comes in often. “I am single and am looking for a partner. I know I have defects. How do I attract the right partner, one I can work with? How do I go about it?”
Continue reading →Decision Making in a Heirarchy
This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.
Continue reading →The Power of Passivity: The Essay
This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.
Do you talk too much or too fast?
Do you talk too much or two fast? Hey, I do! On the one hand it is a wonderful advantage. It has also caused a lot of trouble for me – because it drives people crazy.
Continue reading →It is Not Fair! The Testicle Principle
All issues and problems that couples bring to my office are fair. Each person can lead the way out of the trouble. All problems EXCEPT ONE, that is. For one problem, there is only one person who can lead in the solution. This is the “Unfair Problem.”
Avoid becoming a Bully, yourself!
A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.
Continue reading →Glossary of Terms
This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.
Continue reading →Map of Relationships (Full Version Script) Part VI
This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part VI, Questions and Answers.
Continue reading →Map of Relationships (Full Version Script) Part V
This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part V, the Other Doors.
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