Guiding Communologue
A list of interventions that can be used to create and maintain a dialogical group atmosphere. A new guideline added on Nov 27, '07.
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Notes: Guiding Dialogue (5 July 2006)
Notes for a Class on Guiding Dialogue
Continue reading →Glossary of Terms
This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.
Continue reading →Map of Relationships (Full Version Script) Part VII
This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part VII, Final Points.
Continue reading →Map of Relationships (Full Version Script) Part IV
This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part IV, Relationship Framework.
Continue reading →Map of Relationships (Full Version Script) Part III
This is the script of a DVD of the full form of the Map of Relationships. Part III of the Map of Relationships. Compares Romantic Love and Vintage Love. Romantic Love always, always always ends. It has to. Anyone who says it doesn't might be selling snake oil.
Continue reading →Caring Behaviors
This paper is an excerpt from my essay on SAFETY, The Lizard. It describes tactics for “making your partner feel safe.”
Continue reading →Restructuring Frustration: The Process
This article is the result of 10 years of practice by my wife and I. It is a step by step structured process that will eventually both remove all critical frustrations from a relationship but will also build confidence and skills in dealing with new frustrations when they arise.
Continue reading →The Gentle Art of Pulling
"Pulling" is a critical component of making good communication work smoothly. It stops the habit of interruption. It promotes full sharing of points and it enables people getting to ?the bottom of things? ? quality understanding. It is the necessary fourth step of the Mirroring teaching tool, but it is a skill all its own. Here's my brief definition of a pull. A brief verbal or non-verbal invitation by receiver to the sender to keep talking on the subject at hand only. This gesture ends the ?insult of interruption.?
Continue reading →Group Standards for Discussion
This is a letter I wrote to the Peace Project concerning my group's self-defined standards of Communologue.
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