This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.
This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.
Continue reading →Do you talk too much or two fast? Hey, I do! On the one hand it is a wonderful advantage. It has also caused a lot of trouble for me – because it drives people crazy.
Continue reading →All issues and problems that couples bring to my office are fair. Each person can lead the way out of the trouble. All problems EXCEPT ONE, that is. For one problem, there is only one person who can lead in the solution. This is the “Unfair Problem.”
A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.
Continue reading →Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.
Continue reading →Being gullible or being skeptical. How much? I was talking to another old guy last evening and we both shared …
Continue reading →By Donald L. Gibbon. Northern Idaho sounds like it should be about as far away from 21st century social ills as you could get and still have access to modern America’s social benefits. Coeur d’Alene, known to demographers and government bureaucrats as CdA, has a population of only about 35,000, but it’s still the largest town in the state north of Boise, some 460 long miles to the south.
Continue reading →"You are not entitled!" Get it. (On the receiving end, "You are not obliged!) Learn how to deal with Frustrations and "letting go" of things we are Not Entitled To.
Continue reading →Some more thoughts on Guiding a Communologue Group. A new guideline added on Nov 1, '06.
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