Blessing or Cursing
“My assignment, years ago as I got older, was to find a younger person and bless them, once every day.” I can share this secret with you. Now, take your time reading this. It is a gift that I can pass on.
Continue reading →Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk
I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.
Continue reading →The Power of Passivity: The Essay
This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.
Practical Application of Communologue
This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.
Continue reading →Phone Chat: On Frustrations
Yesterday I gave a chat to a group (about 32) of Imago Therapists on Frustrations. Here is that audiofile of that chat. It is about 1 hour long.
Continue reading →Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique
This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.
Continue reading →What's in a Word: “Master” and “Slave”
I have been using the terms “Master” and “Slave” for quite some time and have not ever found any terms that are more useful in dealing with the problems of Autonomy. However, over the years my usage has stirred up some controversy and even distress in people. At this point I have no plans to change my terms. At the same time I thought I would share a bit about the wonderful controversies.
Continue reading →Do you talk too much or too fast?
Do you talk too much or two fast? Hey, I do! On the one hand it is a wonderful advantage. It has also caused a lot of trouble for me – because it drives people crazy.
Continue reading →It is Not Fair! The Testicle Principle
All issues and problems that couples bring to my office are fair. Each person can lead the way out of the trouble. All problems EXCEPT ONE, that is. For one problem, there is only one person who can lead in the solution. This is the “Unfair Problem.”
Sunrise in Cabo San Lucas 2007