This is my paper on Boundaries for Individuals. This is everything I think a person needs to know about setting up and maintaining their differences when someone else is around. It contains all my thinking on personal boundaries. Enjoy.
Summary: This paper covers the two ways that people can come together and share (or not) their different views of reality. Relating via Master/Slave is only functional in certain situations: where efficiency is needed as in business, where property ownership is involved, in emergencies. Relating via Friend/Friend is normal during courtship. Master/Slave, commonly used in intimate relationships or families, is dysfunctional. Learn the critical skills of Friend/Friend to end argument and prevent fighting. This is the first of three parts on Autonomy.
The chart that goes with the Master/Slave paper.
Continue reading →From the point of view of relationships, I think this “the disease of the disease”, the source behind so much trouble. Most everyone in our country suffers from this disease. And it is even taught on TV. I believe this is the source of MasterTalk.
Continue reading →This is the lesson I teach every person I see. This is critical information for people who are puzzled, bothered, or upset when they find they disagree or that others disagree with them.
These concepts are vital to the practice of Dialogue and Communologue.
Continue reading →This discusses a great and eroding problem within a relationship: keeping silent, keeping secrets.
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A listing of possible relationship problems – linked to solutions.
Continue reading →This is the chart that goes with the paper. Good skills to learn.
Continue reading →Here are some more thoughts about PreValidation and Validation.
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