1st Cutting, Beaver Lake Ranch, 2008
Goals of Talking
The Goal Of Communication in Relationships is that both persons feel understood frequently, and always when the subject is important to one or the other.
(I wrote this some years ago. See how all the ideas on my website are worked into it.)
“Pulling Back, Not Pushing, yet Wanting to Talk.”
Here's a letter by another clinger (Bless her and all the clingers out there), about learning from my website and applying what she has learned. Wow, working on yourself can be really eventful!
Continue reading →“He's leaving. I'm trying.”
This is the story of a woman who believes her partner is leaving, and doesn't want him to. She kinda followed him across the country, but managed to keep learning the lesson, “Work on your self, visibly.” She's good, but learning is not easy! (Names have been changed)
Continue reading →“California Homestead” North Idaho 2008
Peaceful Vacation Scheme
Here we are, about to head off on another vacation, and I promised that I would write down how we manage keeping it so much fun.
Continue reading →Passivity: In the foundations
If you have been following my work through Part One: Master/Slave and Part Two: Power of Passivity, then this may be your next stop. I decided to share my path down a bit deeper into the basement. Be warned! The steps down here may be tippy.
Continue reading →Mine or Yours or ?
I have been asked recently by people who are reading my papers on boundaries how to decide if something is mine or my partner's or what?? I was writing a response, and decided I'd better post it for everyone.
Continue reading →Help, Join In, Leave your footprint (testimonials welcome)
Your suggestions could really shape the future here at this website and in the place in the forest where I often sit!
Continue reading →The Map of Relationships: A Chart
This is a chart of my understandings of how intimate relationships work in printable B&W and Color versions. I hand this chart to anyone who is serious about getting in or out of good relationships. I use this chart on my whiteboard when I am teaching The Map of Relationships.
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